Welcome, Parents of ROGD Kids!
(Rapid Onset Gender Dysphoria)
Looking for real tools and guidance? You've come to the right place!
ROGD Repair is a self-paced online course that teaches an emotionally intelligent approach to parenting teens and twenty-somethings confused about their gender.
Work Smarter, Not Harder
Part of your child wants to find a better way forward. You can shepherd their growth.
You don't need blind affirmation, obsessive attempts at coercive control, or despair.
You can learn to help your child release the false identity they've constructed as a temporary coping mechanism — and grow toward a healthy, autonomous future.
Meet your coach: Stephanie Winn, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist.
What do you do when kids say they're trans? How do you affirm reality?
A free gift for you
Listen to this guided meditation when you need support.
The course contains several more bonus meditations, beyond the core curriculum.
Freebies rotate periodically, but will always be available to enrolled students.
Discover the Curriculum
- (PUBLIC PREVIEW) Introducing ROGD Repair: a New, Game-Changing Resource for Concerned Parents of Trans-Identified Youth (75:58)
- Why join ROGD Repair? The value of a proactive approach (Public Preview) (14:14)
- ENROLLED STUDENTS START HERE: Welcome & Orientation (please do not skip) (11:46)
- Disclaimer, Privacy Policy & Copyright
- How This Course Came To Be (34:08)
- Philosophy and Approach (14:09)
- Before We Go On: Let's Take Privacy Seriously
- Introduction to General Attitudes, Habits & Mindset Shifts (2:19)
- Give Up Wishful Thinking; This Won't Go Away On Its Own (4:11)
- Realign with Your Core Values to Find Strength & Guidance (3:04)
- Marathon Mindset: Being In It For the Long Haul (2:14)
- The Importance of Slowing Down; Attuning to Recognize Opportunities (2:13)
- Lifestyle Changes: A Brief Overview of Adjustments to Make (7:48)
- Adopt a Posture of Non-Defensiveness to Soothe, De-Escalate, and Model Healthy Interactions (3:38)
- Carry Yourself with Dignity Through Assertive Self-Respect (0:41)
- Remember You Are the Adult (2:26)
- Think Symbolically; Find Helpful Analogies (6:53)
- Take the Next Step in the Dance (5:22)
- Be Willing to Self-Reflect on Blind Spots and Shadows (2:29)
- Model and Reflect on Matters of Grace and Forgiveness (5:53)
- Stop Desperately Attempting to Persuade (2:55)
- Refrain from Bribing, Bargaining & Coercing (6:48)
- Avoid Long, Unreciprocated Texts and Emails (1:52)
- Stop Losing Control of Your Emotions and Behavior (3:25)
- Be Wary of Trusting the Wrong People & Making Yourself a Target (4:38)
- When it Comes to Faith: Show, Don't Tell (2:40)
- Embrace Nuance to Allow for Hope (2:41)
- Don't Over-Give, Enable Bad Behavior, or Tolerate Abuse (3:59)
- Get Your Priorities Straight (4:21)
- Be Circumspect With Regard to Your Own Activism (5:30)
- Assess Your Leverage & Tailor Interventions Accordingly (9:05)
- Introduction to Psychological Concepts Section (0:43)
- Double Binds: When You're Caught Between a Rock and a Hard Place (4:47)
- Neuroplasticity, Addiction, and Obsessive-Compulsive Patterns (15:02)
- Is Gender Dysphoria Ego-Syntonic or Ego-Dystonic? (7:58)
- Cognitive Dissonance: Conflicting Beliefs Pervade Gender Ideology (11:57)
- Secondary Gain: the Hidden Benefits of Suffering (4:10)
- Adopting the Language of Parts (4:18)
- The Sunk Cost Fallacy: Why We Continue When Our Behaviors Don't Pay Off (6:38)
- The Hot-Cold Empathy Gap: Why We're Terrible at Predicting Our Future Responses (7:53)
- Identity, Confidence, and Competence: the Crux of What Your Child Truly Needs (5:40)
- The Default Mode Network vs. Task Positive Network; Impacts on Depression & Anxiety (7:15)
- The Paradox of Choice: The Illusion that More Options = More Happiness (7:49)
- Psychological Differentiation: An Often Missing Skill in Immature Youth (7:55)
- Extinction Bursts vs. Intermittent Rewards in Behavioral Psychology (3:03)
- Dissociation: Your Child's Mind-Body Disconnect (13:13)
- Code-Switching: How We Navigate Different Social Environments (9:24)
- Preference Falsification, The Emperor's New Clothes, and Drag Queens (9:15)
- Hypersensitivity to Embarrassment & Scrutiny in Adolescents & Young Adults (20:29)
- Twice-Exceptional Youth & the Lopsided Brain; Scaffolding Skills in Autistic Youth (25:04)
- Empathy vs. Theory of Mind, featuring: Mentalizing (14:25)
- One More Warning About Trusting Unverified Professionals (3:58)
- Your Kid's Vulnerability Hangover (2:52)
- Moral Foundations Theory & Nonviolent Communication (17:08)
- Social and Identity Capital; "Party Tricks" as Building Blocks (28:09)
- Cluster B Personality Traits & Behaviors: A Brief Introduction & Overview (7:42)
- Get Out of the F.O.G. of Emotional Blackmail (10:52)
- Grandiosity: A Feature of Narcissism, or Just Immaturity? (5:00)
- Projection: When Your Child's Emotions are Now Yours (8:28)
- Depressed/Depleted Narcissism: Woe Is Me (6:51)
- The Drama Triangle: Victim, Persecutor, and Rescuer (3:44)
- A Funhouse Mirror Warning: When Both Sides Point the Narcissist Finger (3:32)
- Entitlement, Resentment, "Narcissist Math" & the Woke Robinhood Mentality (28:33)
- Introduction to this section
- Boundaries and Consequences: An Overview (8:53)
- Healthy Boundaries & Consequences, the Customer Service Attitude, & Being Life's Messenger (12:31)
- Distinguish Between Your Boundaries and Your Opinions (6:13)
- Front-Load Disappointing News to Reduce Anxiety (2:28)
- Set Boundaries Using the Broken Record Technique (7:52)
- Strategic Apologizing: A Helpful Tool for Delivering Hard News (5:42)
- Absorb the Blows Preemptively: Conduct an Accusation Audit (10:56)
- Playful Assertion to Protect the Quality of Interactions (3:56)
- Financial Boundaries 1: Redirecting Savings for Future Medical Needs (9:06)
- Introduction to Communication Strategies Section (1:15)
- Introduction to Strategic Thinking: Beginning with the End in Mind (7:28)
- Nonverbal Communication and Your Nervous System (11:46)
- Restoring Natural Spontaneity to Communication (1:46)
- Working With the Ego: Alter-Casting + Playing Dumb (16:26)
- Reflective Listening & Empathic Guesses: Therapeutic Communication to Reduce Defensiveness (4:30)
- Curiosity Without Agreement; Reflective Listening with Differentiation (2:31)
- Changing the Pattern: When All You Can Control is Your Own Predictability (10:54)
- Dropping Defensiveness, Fessing Up: "You Caught Me" (2:56)
- Resist the Urge to Over-Share; Make Them Ask for Information Instead (2:44)
- Make "NO" Work for You: Use No-Oriented Questions (3:26)
- Pose Moral Dilemmas and Invite Critical Thinking (7:58)
- Near-Future Pain and Embarrassment Are More Palpable to Teens Than Long Term Problems (6:14)
- Use Accurate Language; Avoid Cliches (2:15)
- Leave Reading Material Lying Around So Kids Can Peruse Un-Self-Consciously (2:49)
- Use "What" and "How" Questions, Rather Than "Why" (2:25)
- Emphasize Near-Term Pain and Embarrassment Over Long Term Medical Consequences (4:53)
- De-Personalize It: Invite Opinions on What Others Should Do (4:21)
- Playfulness & Self-Effacing Humor (6:36)
- Set Aside Talk of Detransitioners; Express Concern for Trans People Instead (3:49)
- A Different Way to Speak About Detransitioners (5:59)
- Say "You're Right" Early and Often (2:35)
- Statements to Buy Yourself Time + Circle Back (13:55)
- A Strategy for Handling Projection: Inverting "The Work" of Byron Katie (18:25)
- Introduction to Further Insights Section (0:26)
- Detecting Hidden Signs of Ambivalence & Doubt (8:53)
- What's in a Name? (4:36)
- Bad Things Won't Happen to My Friends (6:13)
- The Right Side of History (5:41)
- Building Your Child's Healthy Self-Esteem (8:20)
- Gameable Heuristics: When Mental Shortcuts Create Exploitable Loopholes (11:04)
- Differences in Worldviews Between Youthful Progressives & Mature Moderates (18:06)
- Secrets Policies and Parental/Familial Triangulation (13:37)
- The Writing on the Wall: Threat of Estrangement; Getting Ahead vs. Behind Where They're Going (13:22)
- Don't Burst Their Bubble; Try to Understand the Bubble (11:28)
- Is There Hope? Ways of Orienting to Questions of Optimism, Effort, and Despair (25:15)
- Comfort and Challenge: The Paradoxical Relationship (18:56)
- Is "Gender-Nonconforming" Actually the Best Way to Describe Your Child? (5:56)
- Inhibition vs. Disinhibition, Neuroplasticity & Flow States (23:20)
- Dissociation vs. Embodiment, Featuring: Proprioception (18:58)
- Time Horizons & Empathy for Our Future Self (17:48)
- Holistic Therapeutics: Float Tanks & Hot/Cold Therapies (22:23)
- Trump's Executive Orders: Applying the Tools to How You Communicate. Plus: Why Switch to Group Chats (34:55)
- Implementing a Digital Sabbath & Drawing Your Kid Out of Their Room (24:39)
- Conduct a Premortem: Learn to Prevent Your Worst-Case Scenario (6:12)
- Natural communication has a back-and-forth, serve-and-return rhythm (2:34)
- Ages and Stages: The Developmental Map Every ROGD Parent Needs (27:12)
- Welcome to the bonus articles! Written based on my work helping parents like you.
- Life Paths and the Branching Tree
- Why Your Child Can't "Just Stop Thinking About It": Understanding Neural Valleys and Gender Obsession (X) (0:09)
- The Marriage Problem Nobody Talks About: Why Your Marital Conflict Is Fueling Your Child's Gender Ideology
- Vagal Tone & Nervous System Regulation: Why Your Calmness (or Panic) Is More Powerful Than Your Words
- The Affirmation Paradox: Why Your Child Resents Non-Affirmation While Losing Respect for Those Who Affirm
- Getting Ahead of the Behavior: Why Staying Silent About What You See Is More Dangerous Than Speaking Up
- Triangulation & Splitting: How Your Child Compartmentalizes Relationships to Avoid Integrating Reality (X) (7:37)
- Naming the Aggression: Why Your Child's Hostility Matters and How It Differs Between Boys and Girls (X)
- Moral Masochism & Learned Helplessness: Why Your Child Self-Sabotages and Gets Stuck in Victimhood (X) (7:00)
- Power Dynamics: Why Your Child Shouldn't Be in Control and How to Reclaim Your Family's Emotional Leadership
- Cluster B Personality Traits, Emotional Abuse & Power Play Dynamics in Adolescents
- Father-Son Relationship Rupture & Repair: When Gender Dysphoria Masks the Real Problem
- Understanding Identity Patterns in Gender-Questioning Youth: What Parents Are Observing
- They're Listening (Even When It Seems Like They're Not)
- Just Sit in the Room: Why Your Presence Matters More Than Your Instructions
- Steering Without Commanding: The If-Then Framework for Stubborn Teens
- She Doesn't Want to Be Trans—She Wants to Be a Boy: Understanding the Difference
- When Hollywood Gets It Right: Strategic Apologizing and Boundary-Setting in Action (X) (1:56)
- The Reality Principle: Why Meeting Gender Ideology Halfway Doesn't Work (X)
- Triangulate the Cat: When Direct Connection Isn't Possible, Connect Through a Third Object (X)
- Seen But Not Scrutinized: The Paradox Every Parent of a Teenager Needs to Understand (X)
- The Load-Bearing Delusion: What Your Child's Trans Identity Is Protecting Them From (X/Substack)
- Cognitive Dissonance as Magma: Why You Shouldn't Cause the Earthquake
- College as a Crossroads: Strategic Thinking About the Most Dangerous Transition Point
- When Your Sensitive Child Can't Sleep: A Practical Guide to Chronic Insomnia (X)
- After the Self-Harm Scare: How to Stop Walking on Eggshells
- Protecting the Sibling: How to Support a Younger Child When Their Older Sibling Has Transitioned
- The Disenfranchised Dad: When a Father's Love Gets Lost in Translation (X)
- Executive Functioning as a Doorway: How Practical Coaching Builds Connection and Confidence
- Planting Seeds, Not Winning Arguments
- The Rubber Duck Method: When Listening Is More Powerful Than Arguing
- "You Take It to Mean That I Don't Respect You": The Language of Double Differentiation
- Polycystic Ovarian Syndrome (PCOS) and Your Daughter
- When Helping Hurts: The Single Mom's Blind Spot in Raising Boys
- When Self-Expression is Antithetical to the Goal: A Wake-Up Call
- When Your Kid Says They Don't Intend to Medicalize
- "Yes, And" — The Most Dangerous Moment in the Conversation
What's in the Program?
What you'll get when you enroll:
120+ Video Lessons
Listen like a podcast
Watch or listen at your own pace, or on the go using Teachable's app. Treat it like a podcast or audiobook. Learn a broad range of concepts, then focus on the ones most applicable to your family.
Essays
Read for further insight
Digestible articles to read at your leisure, further breaking down and elaborating on concepts explained in the video lessons. Make sure to read these in full, as sometimes I add concepts left out of the corresponding videos.
Questions for Reflection
Personalize concepts with homework
Open-ended prompts to help you integrate lessons and customize tools to suit your family. Journal into the answer boxes, or discuss with your spouse to apply the tools to your specific situation.
AI Chat Support
"Like having Stephanie in your pocket!"
Most ROGD Repair subscriptions now come with unlimited access to RepairBot, the first of its kind: an AI agent trained on the ROGD Repair curriculum, plus Stephanie's podcast and medical literature. Use RepairBot as a sounding board; practice homework exercises from course lessons; and get help writing scripts that implement the tools. RepairBot is free for anyone to try (check it out via the chat box in the bottom right corner), but when you enroll you're granted unlimited access within 24-48 hours. Those uninterested in AI can purchase plans without unlimited access.
Community Forums and Discussion Sections
Discussion sections on each lesson, plus separate community forums where participants can post thoughts, ideas, and questions. See how others are implementing the tools and interpreting the homework exercises. Gain inspiration from the progress other families are making.
Hope, Clarity and a Way Forward
"I was able to use your words of wisdom in instances where there would have been a big fight, and turn those situations into calm, successful interactions." - Karen, NYC
"If we had had this information 5 years ago I believe we may have been able to not only prevent our son going deeper into the ideology and getting on hormones but even more fundamentally, help him out of the unhealthy psychological patterns that got us into this in the first place." - Courtney S. Boston, MA
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Testimonials
ROGD Repair reviews, used with gratitude and permission
"Stephanie,
I can’t thank you enough for providing this course. I have much trouble saying the right things and your course has really helped me to more effectively and compassionately communicate with our trans identified son. This was especially important since he ran away last summer and we were fortunate enough to be able to go through the court system to bring him home by making a case for other mental health reasons. The courts here are trans affirming, so it was a double edged sword, but we managed to get him home and away from from his glitter families, and without starting any medicalization. Since being home, I’ve had to not only changed many old habits of thinking, but also learn a new skill (for me) of saying the right things without pushing him to leave again, or further into the trans identity, which I’m sure am not alone in that respect! Your course was helped me tremendously in both regards. Plus, I personally enjoyed the crash course in psychology! You explain psychological concepts in lay terms that really help with establishing a core understanding of what’s going on in the minds of these poor youth. So, from the bottom of my heart, Thank You for this course, and all the hard work and dedication you and all others in your profession are doing to save these youth."
-Michelle P.
"The ROGD Repair Course + Community have been immeasurably helpful for my husband and I! We actually look forward to listening and reflecting on the materials. Stephanie’s wisdom and experience has been priceless in keeping us sane as we live each day processing this situation. We are so glad we found her soon after our son’s coming out to us. I am confident that this course has kept us from saying and doing things we would have regretted."
-Christy C., Santa Cruz, CA
"This course is brimming with eye-opening information from a perspective that is just not being covered elsewhere. It is richly insightful and practical at the same time and is an incredibly valuable resource for learning how to strengthen your relationship with your child and approach the subject of gender in a way that has the best chance of getting through to them.
If we had had this information 5 years ago I believe we may have been able to not only prevent our son going deeper into the ideology and getting on hormones but even more fundamentally, help him out of the unhealthy psychological patterns that got us into this in the first place. Only a month into learning these concepts, they have already helped us to have conversations we should have had long ago."
-Courtney S. Boston, MA
"I wish this course had been available three years ago when our family first encountered the sudden announcement of an ROGD son. My initial reaction was to read many many books, listen to podcasts, and watch detransitioner videos, however, these resources don’t provide the important underlying psychological concepts of what is driving the behaviour and thinking of many of these kids. In my desperation, I made several of the mistakes that Stephanie wisely advises against, simply because there were so few resources available to understand the psychological complexities our son was experiencing (and continues to experience) and how best to approach the difficult situations we encountered as parents.
This course is an invaluable resource for any parent struggling to navigate the complex and often overwhelming landscape of gender ideology. Many of us never anticipated facing this challenge, and it was the last thing we were prepared for. Given the current state of ideological influence in our medical, educational, and political institutions, I would strongly recommend that ALL parents take this course as a form of preparedness—before the gender ideology beast comes knocking at your door."
-MS in Canada
"Our adult daughter lives at home, secretly taking testosterone and trans has been the subject we dare not speak about. The ROGD Repair Course + Community are exactly what we need right now. The course is filled with deep thought provoking questions to help you look at the particulars of your own family dynamics and develop strategies to help guide your child out of the madness. The lessons are filled with information to help you to think calmly and understand and respond to your child in ways you probably haven’t been able to before – right down to the words to say. The Community allows you to learn from and chat with other parents in similar situations – to experience the strange comfort of knowing you’re not alone. We have great hope and this course is making it actionable."
-Mary C. – Rockford, IL
"I was able to use your words of wisdom in instances where there would have been a big fight, and turn those situations into calm, successful interactions. Specifically, your point about how some of these teens (my daughter included) will respond better to a very literal explanation of why their behavior was not helpful and how they could have better handled a situation not only enabled me to avoid what would have been an argument, but enabled my daughter to see that she needed to do something different. It had to do with letting me know when she was going to be late for dinner but still needed something to eat. I laid out the issue and the behavior that would be helpful in a neutral fashion by text, and she responded accordingly. Thank you for that!"
-Karen, NYC
Meet your instructor:
Stephanie Winn, LMFT
Stephanie earned her Master of Arts in Counseling Psychology at the California Institute of Integral Studies between 2010-2013, then completed her internship hours in a variety of intensive community mental health settings.
As a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, she worked in an outpatient clinic between 2016-2020, treating a broad variety of adolescents, adults, families and couples. It was in this setting she was first taught the "gender affirming" standard of care, and attempted to practice it in good faith — but began to see through the cracks.
In 2020, Stephanie went into private practice and began independently researching matters that concerned her. In 2021, she began to speak out publicly through blogging and social media, and quickly found herself successfully facing down fraudulent accusations of "conversion therapy."
In 2022, she launched her podcast, You Must Be Some Kind of Therapist. In 2023 she was featured in the film No Way Back: The Reality of Gender-Affirming Care and was chosen to be the film's spokesperson. Regular media appearances meant an abundance of ROGD parents reaching out for her guidance, and so she began offering consulting for those situations in which therapy didn't quite fit. Many parents soon began to report that her guidance was helpful.
In early 2024, health concerns compelled her to pare down her practice. She stopped providing psychotherapy, and began focusing exclusively on consulting ROGD parents. As she began to regain her health, she built this course based on insights reported to be helpful by hundreds of clients.
Stephanie launched RepairBot, the newest addition to the course, in 2025, a year after the launch of ROGD Repair. The first AI of its kind, RepairBot is trained on the entire program curriculum and more resources designed specifically for parents like you.
This program is not a substitute for therapy. Enrolling in ROGD Repair does not constitute a personal or professional relationship with Stephanie Winn, LMFT. Course participants are not patients of Stephanie Winn and are not being diagnosed or treated with a mental health condition as part of this course. Stephanie is happy to refer course participants to licensed mental health providers in their area.
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Need this program but cannot afford it?
A limited number of scholarships are available for parents facing significant financial hardship.
If your family has recently been afflicted by unemployment, disability, major illness, loss of a loved one, caregiving strain, bankruptcy, or other misfortune, ask RepairBot — the golden AI chatbot bubble in the bottom right corner of your screen — to help you contact Stephanie about the ROGD Repair scholarship program.
To our regular paying members, your enrollment fees help make it possible to share ROGD Repair with those in need. Thank you for supporting my small business so I can take care of my family while helping you care for yours!
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