Your kid says they're "trans" —

but you just want them to be healthy and safe.

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What's in the Course?

More Testimonials

Used with gratitude and permission

"Stephanie,

I can’t thank you enough for providing this course. I have much trouble saying the right things and your course has really helped me to more effectively and compassionately communicate with our trans identified son. This was especially important since he ran away last summer and we were fortunate enough to be able to go through the court system to bring him home by making a case for other mental health reasons. The courts here are trans affirming, so it was a double edged sword, but we managed to get him home and away from from his glitter families, and without starting any medicalization. Since being home, I’ve had to not only changed many old habits of thinking, but also learn a new skill (for me) of saying the right things without pushing him to leave again, or further into the trans identity, which I’m sure am not alone in that respect! Your course was helped me tremendously in both regards. Plus, I personally enjoyed the crash course in psychology! You explain psychological concepts in lay terms that really help with establishing a core understanding of what’s going on in the minds of these poor youth. So, from the bottom of my heart, Thank You for this course, and all the hard work and dedication you and all others in your profession are doing to save these youth."

-Michelle P.

"The ROGD Repair Course + Community have been immeasurably helpful for my husband and I! We actually look forward to listening and reflecting on the materials. Stephanie’s wisdom and experience has been priceless in keeping us sane as we live each day processing this situation. We are so glad we found her soon after our son’s coming out to us. I am confident that this course has kept us from saying and doing things we would have regretted."

-Christy C., Santa Cruz, CA

"This course is brimming with eye-opening information from a perspective that is just not being covered elsewhere. It is richly insightful and practical at the same time and is an incredibly valuable resource for learning how to strengthen your relationship with your child and approach the subject of gender in a way that has the best chance of getting through to them.

If we had had this information 5 years ago I believe we may have been able to not only prevent our son going deeper into the ideology and getting on hormones but even more fundamentally, help him out of the unhealthy psychological patterns that got us into this in the first place. Only a month into learning these concepts, they have already helped us to have conversations we should have had long ago."

-Courtney S. Boston, MA

"I wish this course had been available three years ago when our family first encountered the sudden announcement of an ROGD son. My initial reaction was to read many many books, listen to podcasts, and watch detransitioner videos, however, these resources don’t provide the important underlying psychological concepts of what is driving the behaviour and thinking of many of these kids. In my desperation, I made several of the mistakes that Stephanie wisely advises against, simply because there were so few resources available to understand the psychological complexities our son was experiencing (and continues to experience) and how best to approach the difficult situations we encountered as parents.

This course is an invaluable resource for any parent struggling to navigate the complex and often overwhelming landscape of gender ideology. Many of us never anticipated facing this challenge, and it was the last thing we were prepared for. Given the current state of ideological influence in our medical, educational, and political institutions, I would strongly recommend that ALL parents take this course as a form of preparedness—before the gender ideology beast comes knocking at your door."

-MS in Canada

"Our adult daughter lives at home, secretly taking testosterone and trans has been the subject we dare not speak about. The ROGD Repair Course + Community are exactly what we need right now. The course is filled with deep thought provoking questions to help you look at the particulars of your own family dynamics and develop strategies to help guide your child out of the madness. The lessons are filled with information to help you to think calmly and understand and respond to your child in ways you probably haven’t been able to before – right down to the words to say. The Community allows you to learn from and chat with other parents in similar situations – to experience the strange comfort of knowing you’re not alone. We have great hope and this course is making it actionable."

-Mary C. – Rockford, IL

"I was able to use your words of wisdom in instances where there would have been a big fight, and turn those situations into calm, successful interactions. Specifically, your point about how some of these teens (my daughter included) will respond better to a very literal explanation of why their behavior was not helpful and how they could have better handled a situation not only enabled me to avoid what would have been an argument, but enabled my daughter to see that she needed to do something different. It had to do with letting me know when she was going to be late for dinner but still needed something to eat. I laid out the issue and the behavior that would be helpful in a neutral fashion by text, and she responded accordingly. Thank you for that!"

-Karen, NYC

Does this sound like you?

You've researched the harms of so-called "gender affirming care."

You're not a narrow-minded person, but you've come to believe this is a dangerous ideology because you understand that your child is at risk of lifelong sterility, and exponentially increased risks of every health problem imaginable, from cancer to cardiovascular disease.

You've googled transition regret rates, listened to the stories of detransitioners, and read the stories of fellow parents with inconvenient truths about trans.

You've looked into non-medical treatment for gender dysphoria and have come to understand that while it's best to seek therapy first, the field has been ideologically captured and the best therapists are afraid to speak out.
The only thing you want to "affirm" at this point is reality.

But your child is calling you a "transphobe" and maybe even threatening suicide or estrangement.

How can ROGD Repair help?

First, it's important to understand that your adolescent or young adult child is likely caught up in what I call

The Trifecta of Social Contagion

ROGD Repair will teach you to

work with your child's ego, not against it

At this young stage of life, under the influence of the Trifecta of Social Contagion, your child's sense of self likely hinges on a sense of being morally and intellectually superior to other people — especially those who don't share their beliefs, and most of all you.

This is where many parents get stuck. How do you convince a headstrong teen or twenty-something that they've been fooled and caught up in a destructive lie?

You don't. You come at it from a different angle — one that appeals to their self-image while restoring their relationship with you, their loving parents. This program will show you how.

The good news is, you can simultaneously

Stop walking on eggshells

and

Stop struggling to prove your point in ways that contradict your child's self-image.

This course will teach you how to do just that, taking into account your adolescent or young adult child's state of mind, developmental stage, the false self persona they have created, and the influence of confounding variables such as autism, internet addiction, and sibling relationships.

I will help you formulate unique applications of time-tested communication strategies based on a thorough understanding of the types of psychological barriers your children have put up that prevent them from hearing you.

Repair What's Broken in Your World

This course is called ROGD Repair to empower frightened parents like you to view your present challenges as an opportunity to repair what is broken: in your child, yourself, your marriage, your family, and our society.

No matter their age or situation in life, anyone expressing distress about a perceived mismatch between their mind and their sexed body is crying for help. They deserve our compassion, and the best help available. But "gender-affirming care" — an Orwellian term that in actuality describes sex-denying harm — is clearly not it. Far from being life-saving as activists claim it to be, sex trait modification (STM) shortens patients' lifespans, increasing the risk of all cause mortality, including suicide, cardiovascular disease, metabolic disease, cancers, psychiatric problems, bone health problems and all manner of urogenital issues.

Meanwhile, the same activists pushing to eliminate "gatekeeping" barriers to these life-shortening "treatments" want your children to believe that no other real help is available; that any distress about their gender means that they are trans, and should proceed down a permanent medical pathway rather than explore what has led them to feel this way or find hope that uncomfortable feelings can be overcome.

Don't trans-identifying youth deserve better?

Something in their world is hurting, and they've mistakenly made their sexed body the scapegoat. The truth is that there never was and never will be anything wrong with the fact that your child was born as male or female, and accepting this material reality is a necessary step toward finding true contentment. Scapegoating their sexed body parts, fixating on their natural traits as if they were terrible flaws, endlessly chasing the "euphoria" of the next step in "transition," will not lead to lasting health, happiness, or relational harmony. And this medical path will not address the root cause of their despair... But you might be able to, with the right tools.

The Trifecta is designed perfectly to exploit any weaknesses in an individual, family, or society. While we can't make the Trifecta go away, we can examine the weaknesses it has exploited, like the Trojans conducting a postmortem analysis of how the infamous wooden horse managed to get into their city walls, or an infectious disease doctor helping a patient understand how a particular virus managed to evade or overpower her immune system's natural defenses.

That's where ROGD Repair comes in, bringing you the tools to fearlessly turn over every stone in the quest to find out how this has become an issue in your family. What is this cry for help really calling for? What is in need of healing here? And might there be a way for you to show your child the solutions they didn't consciously know they were looking for — without pressuring, coercing or lecturing them?

You can become a better version of yourself while handling the gender crisis.

You can work smarter, not harder, saving yourself precious emotional energy. You can "clean up your side of the street" and become a better communicator. You can surprise your kids and catch their attention by breaking up familiar patterns. You can stop walking on eggshells while finding the strength to pull your family through this.

Classic Tools, Reinvented for a Modern Problem

Techniques taught in this course are inspired by:

• Psychodynamic theory: a traditional psychological discipline with a thorough understanding of the unconscious forces that make us human, and the clever ways our psyches attempt to defend us against overwhelming emotions and conflicting drives
• Nonviolent Communication and Reflective Listening: therapeutic communication skills anyone can use to reduce defensiveness and build understanding
• Cognitive Behavioral Therapy skills for addressing common cognitive distortions and improving mental fitness
• Hostage negotiation techniques and other tactics used in high-stress, high-stakes situations
• The Strategic Interaction Approach to helping people in cults and high-control relationships
• Attachment Theory, which interprets behavior in light of relational needs and stages
• The Socratic Method for improving critical thinking skills and fostering respectful debate
• Thousands of meetings with parents like you

Most of the concepts in this course have been around for decades, if not centuries. But this is the first place you will find this particular palette of ingredients curated in this manner, designed specifically for your purposes.

Although Stephanie retains her MFT license, this course is not therapy or medical advice. Course participants are not patients of Stephanie Winn and are not being diagnosed or treated with a mental health condition as part of this course. Stephanie is happy to refer course participants to licensed mental health providers in their area.